"The only time a goodbye is painful is when you know you’ll never say hello again.”
Dear best friend,
Today, we had our last conversation for what might be years. No, you didn’t die, but it sure feels like it.
Life happens and sometimes gets in the way; friends become distant and turn into old memories. As much as I’d like to believe this was the case, I don’t think it was...
You’ve been struggling with your work-life balance for a while now. It was even difficult to see each other during the school year, but we made it happen. You’re full time job has been wearing you down and new significant other fills the time not spent at work. You’ve had to make some life changes to stay afloat, but I never thought cutting ties with me would have been one of them.
Instead of being bitter, I wanted to end our friendship on a good note. I wished you the best in your endeavors and reminded you that I’ll always there for you.
I still remember the first time we met; you were introduced to me as my friend’s best friend. Little did I know we'd become best friends as well. I gave you a nickname because it was too hard to differentiate between all the other friends we had with the same name as you. A group of us went to Applebee’s for dinner and you paid for me. Our personalities instantly clicked and we never looked back.
In the beginning, our time spent together was spent hanging out in group settings. Over time, we became comfortable with one another and began to hang out on our own. It got to the point where we would talk every day and see each other at least once a week despite the 25+ miles between us.
I’ll miss hanging out in your basement or dorm room watching you play video games. I’ll miss you introducing me to soundtracks of video games I’ve never heard of and explaining what challenges the character was dealing with in that particular song, or introducing me to new rappers and describing their unique rhyme patterns . I’ll miss making dinners with you, grocery shopping while we were on healthy kicks, and going hiking while talking about everything and nothing.
I could tell you anything...literally anything. You helped me get through some tough times in life, and I helped you get through yours… that’s what friends are for.
If you’re reading this, I’m so proud of everything you’ve accomplished and how you’ve matured over the years. The way you’ve dealt with your demons and other challenges life threw at you inspires me to take on mine. You’re going places kid, and I wouldn’t be surprised if you start your own business and make it to the 30 under 30 list. And thank you for being one of my few friends who came to visit while I was recovering from my surgery.
And to their significant other, treat them well, because they deserves the world and much more. They are a very kind human being with a huge heart, and those types of people don’t come along often. Be patient while they explains a new topic to you, and take the time to appreciate how passionate they are about what they’re saying. I’m sure that same passion and commitment to knowing even the smallest details shows through your relationship too.
So, old friend, this is goodbye for now. I hope our paths cross again.